God is interested in the marriage of His children. This is why He has outlined certain rules that you must follow so that you will not partake of the sorrows and woes that befall the disobedient. Many times, singles ask questions on how to know God’s will in marriage and how to know who to marry. One good way to know who to marry is first to know who not to marry.
The first commandment of God is that you should never marry an unbeliever. Child of God, don’t marry the child of the devil so that you will not have the devil as your father-in-law. Anyone that Jesus Christ is not the Lord of his/her life is not yours to marry. Whether the person is a staunch unbeliever or an unbeliever-church-goer, just stay away from anyone whose salvation experience is not sure and evidential.
You should not marry a person who doesn’t have a church that he/she belongs to. Even if he claims to be born-again and ardently follows television preachers, don’t marry him. A man/woman who has no local church but only follows online and television preachers will give you untold problems. If you marry him/her, you will realise that in the day of trouble, there is no authority that he/she is answerable to. The television preacher doesn’t even know both of you exist, so you cannot reach him when you need a counsellor for your affairs.
A lot of so-called Christians do not believe in accountability to a local church or pastor, they only watch religious channels and claim they are born again; don’t commit your future to them. Don’t make that mistake of tying your life to a man/woman without an authority over his/her life. He/she will soon become a law to him/herself and all you will be able to do is cry. Crying will not be your portion, in Jesus’ name.
The way out is to obey now and stay away from a person who is not answerable to a church or pastor over his life.Don’t marry someone who doesn’t do anything in the church where he belongs. Here is someone who comes to church, but does nothing whatsoever as a contribution to the church, then he/she corners you unknown to the church and wants to marry you; don’t marry him/her. You are to marry someone who loves and has passion for God. Nominal church members don’t show passion for God. So the man/woman who comes to church for years, no one knows him/her, doesn’t do anything and when the church service ends is already out before anybody is not a marriage material. The reason is that such a lifestyle doesn’t denote a sense of responsibility. You need to marry a responsible husband/wife and a person who will be responsible at home will be responsible in the church.
By Pst Edah
Not all the so-called church workers, who are accountable to their pastors or head of departments are good enough for one to enter into a relationship with let alone talk about marriage. Most of them hide under the pretense of church departments/groups to commit havoc.
You will be surprised to see the kind of moves some guys who appear to be loyal, tongue speaking, with a sanctimonious (holy) look make. You will also be astonished at their requests, behaviour…how suddenly he or she would want to have sex with you.I bet you won’t believe is the same brother or sister in the Lord…😉😊
The truth is that I’ve heard stories of those who married the so-called unaccountable guys/ladies in churches and at the end they turned out to make better and good husbands/wives.
In fact, I’ve seen those who met at the club, eateries, etc and married themselves having good marriages.
Moreover, I think to an extent some so-called church goers aren’t like that because they love to be, but simply because their work does not allow them to participate actively in church departments. So, they rather prefer to just go to church on service days.
A fermous preacher once said and I quote “there’s something worse than being single – marrying the wrong person”. Meaning, he or she can be committed in church, be the favorite of his or her pastor but yet a wife beater, unable to submit to her husband etc.
Another thing is the fact that most times when you meet someone they might not actually look like it…but after a while they’ll become ‘it’ and even surpass your expectations.
Please, don’t get it twisted, I am not justifying any one, method or standards, meeting venues etc that must be adopted in order to meet someone and or to know who to marry.
In my opinion, I think you should first know who you are, your values, strength and weaknesses, what works for you, what type of man or woman that would compliment you to bring out your best, what you can or cannot tolerate, etc before deciding on who to marry.
I must add this, you should also work on yourself to become the best woman or man you would love to marry. What I mean is this, many at times we find ourselves saying things like, I want to marry a God-fearing man or woman, I want to marry a romantic, caring, loving, attention-giver etc kind of man or woman, when you are the very opposite of who you desire to be with. It doesn’t work that way friends.
When you have resolved all of these, then it will become very clear on who you should or should not marry.